I offer free coaching sessions, and I am continually amazed at how many people schedule a free session and then don't show up for it. They don't even call or email to cancel, they just blow it off. I've now written a somewhat foreboding email to people who want a sample session saying "I reserve the right to refuse service to clients who are flaky, don't follow through on their appointments, and otherwise don't seem to be committed to their healing."

My friend Yvonne (RealHotLava.com) goes through moments of self-hate like we all do. Today I was chatting with her online and she came up with this brilliant thought I'd like to share:

i got something - i'm writing to god
and i got this message "serve others"
the way out of self hate is to stop focusing on ME!

Absolutely! Once we start looking at how we can improve the lives of those around us, we stop worrying so much about our own problems. If you feel like you need more love, give more love away. It's amazing how it comes back to you.

Three little things you can do to love yourself more:

1. Give yourself permission to not be perfect.
2. Forgive yourself, especially for those times when you were a jerk or otherwise not at your best.
3. Find one thing about yourself that's pretty darn cool, and really appreciate it.