Disengaging From Negative Energy

by Stephanie Brail

We're constantly bombarded with negative energy from people and places around us. If we're not careful, we can take that energy in and make it our own. Additionally, the negative energy can hook itself into a vulnerable spot in your psyche – say, that spot in your heart that feels unlovable – and by pushing your buttons, suck you in to a negative downward spiral.

The more we work on ourselves and heal our psychic wounds, the less likely we are to be affected by surrounding negative energy. Until we're strong and healed, we need to be very aware and careful of the energies surrounding us.

Negative Places
People and places carry their own energies that can adversely affect us. A place can hold the energies of fights, depression, and even murders and suicides. (This is why people often “sage” a home when they move in. Burning sage clears away the bad residual energy.)

A negative place holds the combined psychic energy of the people who inhabit it. The leadership who runs the place (if there is a leader) will often set the tone and creating a space that is either warm and nurturing or energetically draining.

For example, churches and other places of worship will often be filled with positive energy due to the prayers and intention of the audience. (Some churches, however, may have bad energy if the leadership is insincere...and yet, if the congregation is sincere enough, their combined positive energy can overcome even the worst leaders.)

Yoga centers often have positive energy, especially if chanting is used. Golden Bridge Yoga in Hollywood has a palpable positive energy due to the persistent and continual chanting and Kundalini Yoga practices.

Negative spaces also have a palpable energy. Haunted locations, prisons, and soulless organizations can have bad energy. Sometimes these energies are very dark in nature. There is a vortex on the haunted ship the Queen Mary that is so negative, just standing near it can make you feel fearful and anxious.

Many healers will also cite bars and nightclubs as harbors for negative energy. The drinking and drug use will sometimes attract lower energies. So it's a good idea to shield yourself when entering such environments.

Psychic Attacks
Negative people can be even more dangerous if we let them in too close without protecting ourselves energetically. A psychic attack is when a person sends negative energy to another person.

We are all guilty of psychic attacks at times. If you are swearing and wishing harm on the driver who just cut you off, you are guilty of a psychic attack. These aren't too potent, however. It's the persistent, ongoing attacks that are the problem.

For example, energy vampires are people who literally tap into our energy systems and suck vital life force away from us. Manipulators consciously and quite often unconsciously tap into our past wounds to gain power and favors. Others just go on the attack by sending the negative energies of jealousy and ill will.

Unfortunately, it's often the ones we love the most that have the potential to bring us down the most. Family is an obvious culprit, but friends and lovers are often sources of negativity and we don't even realize it. We're often aware and even blaming when it comes to family, but we do the opposite with friends and lovers: We excuse, ignore, and gloss over.

I had a friend who was an energy vampire. She was an active alcoholic (a big red flag) and would literally call me up three times per day crying her eyes out over some perceived drama in her life. I begged her to see a shrink or go to AA, and she would promise to go and then come up with an excuse.

Tied into this friend was another friend who would go from being my best buddy to stabbing me in the back at random opportunities. She would find some petty thing to get mad at me about, ignore me, and then go bad-mouth me to the first friend, never talking to me privately or giving me the opportunity to clear things up with her.

These are obvious examples but the less obvious examples are the friends who are nice to you to your face but inside harboring resentments and ill will. Women in particular have to be aware of this, since women are still raised to unconsciously see each other as competitors (for male attention).

Men have to be aware that women will often hook into them for security and validation. This is not to say women are the sole perpetrators of psychic attacks. But when men attack women it is more likely to be overt and physical.

Co-workers are also sources of psychic attacks. When going to a job, you are often mixed up with people you might not otherwise have anything in common with. Greed, jealousies, and pride will often create a lethal work environment.

Signs of Psychic Attack
While everyone is different and responds differently to energy, here are a few signs you are under psychic attack:

1. You feel drained and irritable around the person.
2. You have a hard time letting go (of them, of their problems) even though you know you should.
3. You find yourself over-reacting emotionally, in ways that you wouldn't otherwise. You feel out of control.
4. You are obsessing and negative.
5. Things in your life are going haywire and the usual flow has stopped, i.e., money is hard to come by. (This is with an extreme psychic attack.)
6. You continue to engage (fight, respond, defend yourself) even though you know you shouldn't.
7. You get physically sick when you spend a lot of time with the person. (I had a boyfriend who constantly gave me colds.)
8. You doubt yourself and your own intuition based on the twisted logic presented by the person; you blame yourself in a one-sided fashion. (“This is all my fault: I'm bad, I'm unlovable, I'm the horrible person.”)

Dealing With a Negative Person
Not every negative person is actively attacking you personally. Sometimes, they are just negative, period. There's a guy I know who is fairly universally hated by everyone who deals with him. He is condescending, arrogant, and patronizing. Yet, because he's taken the reins at this particular organization and gets stuff done, he feels he is the one in the right.

This man is not actively intending to be negative, but his own personal baggage, control issues, and negative energies adversely affect most of the people he interacts with. The organization also suffers, and many people have left, in part due to his negativity. The energy has spread to the space itself, and when you walk in, you can literally feel a dark, heavy energy blanketing the location.

Unfortunately, even though such a negative person is not personally attacking you, you still need to protect yourself from them.

How to Shield Yourself
Many, many techniques are available to shield yourself from negative energies. The most important aspect of these techniques is the intention behind them. Here are a few simple ones to try:

1. Remove yourself from the person or environment.
Ideally, you will remove yourself entirely from the person or environment. I consulted for a company once that bounced so many checks that the bank shut down their account. They were actively perpetrating check fraud. They bounced my checks too. There is no good reason to keep an organization like that in your life. Even if you think you need them, you don't need them. Quit, leave, and get the hell out of dodge. (This goes for certain people too.)

2. Use the white light technique or cross your arms.
If you must be around a person or place that is negative, the simplest thing you can do is imagine yourself surrounded with white light. Do this often! When speaking to someone who has bad energy, cross your arms. It helps to keep their energy from infiltrating yours. (Very useful at work.)

3. Go to a higher power.
If you believe in such things, God, Jesus, angels, or whatever higher power you trust can be good allies. Pray to God for protection. Ask Archangel Michael to remove negative energies from your personal space.

4. Clear the energies in your home.
Your home environment can be contaminated by negative energies, whether it's from neighbors, friends visiting, and sometimes whoever is living with you. Burn sage, meditate, or chant to clear the energy. (“Om” is a universal clearing mantra.) Clear out your old clutter and throw it away – often it carries old negative energy with it.

5. Cut cords.
Etheric cords are energetic highways that run between you and other people you have connected with. When used positively, they allow for the exchange of love energy and psychic information. When used negatively, they are used to drain energy and keep a person attached long after it has been good for them. Cords re-appear daily so you should clear them as much as possible. If you don't know a cord clearing technique of your own, simply ask Archangel Michael to cut them for you at the end of each day.

6. Mentally disengage.
When a person is pushing your buttons and you find yourself getting emotionally overwrought, take a few deep breaths and mentally disengage. Repeat to yourself some sort of statement that feels comforting to you, such as “I am letting go” or “I love myself.”

7. Stop trying to fix the other person.
If you find yourself constantly trying to help someone who is going through a lot of personal dramas, and yet, they continue to be messed up at best, it's probably time to stop. Only help people who ask you for your help and who appear to be actively trying to improve their lives. Give the others over to God.

8. Trust your own intuition.
One of the biggest problems we have is that we often ignore our own intuition to make excuses for other people. It's hard to believe that someone you love might be psychically attacking you. You want to make excuses for them. It's easier to believe that you are the bad guy. And certainly, while we are not all perfect and we do sometimes do rotten things, if a person is making you crazy, it's probably them and not you. Listen to that little voice in your head that says, “Hey, this is not right.” Pay attention to that sick feeling you have in your solar plexus. It's telling you something. Trust it.

9. Heal yourself.
The more you heal your inner wounds, the less likely people will be able to push your buttons. But don't kick yourself if a button is pushed – you're human! The next time someone says something to you and you find yourself overreacting, make a note of it. Later, when you've calmed down, you know you've found a little sore spot that needs some healing. A little Reiki or EFT can go a long way.

10. Laugh about it.
My friend and I have a name for people who psychically attack now. We call them “lizard people” (in reference to the controversial David Icke's theory that the world is run by evil shape-shifting reptiles). Laughter is a good way to disengage and realize that what seemed threatening really isn't that threatening after all. (After all, psychic attacks are the most effective when you buy into them on some level.)

These are just a few suggestions to help you when dealing with negative environments and people. As you become more aware, you will find yourself able to respond more proactively instead of automatically. As time goes on you will find yourself naturally being drawn to more positive environments and letting go of the ones that bring you down. Then your life can continue along a positive upward spiral.

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I never get along with my sister, and she's being depressed and on medicine for 7-8 years, and she's the type who would not become active, who would not plan for her future, I feel like she's draining off the family and my life. Often I feel so depressed just seeing her rotting at home. We lived in the same room, and I really don't like the dark, dead, and the air in my room.

Really your article was very helpful. I knew that someone day I'll leave her to get my freedom and to breathe.

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Have A Happy Day!

Developing clairsentient skills is a vital to understanding our internal reactions to our environments and people. In essence, we need these skills to help protect ourselves. It does this by alerting us to the negative experiences or energy of the environment around us. More importantly, it can serve as a warning against people who actually intend to cause harm.

Psychic development can help you learn how to develop certain psychic skills that can help you ward off attacks and negative energy.

Best to you,


I particularly like the several mentions of God, angels and prayer, because if you truly believe your God has the power to overcome darkness, that light will always overcome the darkness, then this should be enough to help protect you from anything, whether it is some psychic attack, energy vampire, witch, voodoo or
other dark energy form or presence in existence. You shouldn't need some special crystal or other special charm to help you. What you mostly or entirely need to protect yourself should already be available to you, if you only choose to use what's already there, which costs you nothing more than your own belief and application in it, whatever it is.

Thanks so much for all of this information! It is very difficult when the negative energy/attacks is coming from someone that you live with. I will continue to work on this and all of your suggestions.

Honestly I have been browsing online to find something I can connect with in regards to negative energy/people/environments and you seem to have described it all so well and easily. Thank you, told my coworkers about your methods of ridding yourself of toxic people.

Wow, I have felt this was happening in my life for many years, and even thought I was crazy, looking for something that wasn't or couldn't be there. However, I googled the question this morning and you spoke directly to the situation in my life and for the first time I feel hope.
In the past I have attempted to run from this friend, and yet no matter how hard I tried, she turned up again. It is not that I don't care for her and her welfare, I do care, but everytime I see her or speak to her on the phone even, my life goes from calm to chaos in 30 seconds or less with no explanation.
After twenty years of being told it was all in my head, I am now armed and will prepare my spirit, she just called and said she was going to stop by, if I was going to be home. Can I make a difference today? I sure hope so, because today I just don't know how much more I can take.